Jason Evert is one of the best Catholic speakers on the subject of chastity. He has dedicated his life to the very hard work of teaching teens the true goodness of sex and purity. On July 1st he appeared on the Catholic Answers radio podcast to answer questions about chastity. In the opening discussion he shared a story about a recent encounter with a teen who was dealing with transgender issues. This is a particularly hot topic now because of recent headlines with Bruce Jenner, Target, and more. Below is the story. Pay attention to how he answers this girls questions and clarifies her various feelings.
There is a great deal of confusion out there about sexuality, attraction, and identity, but there is a way through it. Often Catolics do not want to speak out because they do not know the answers, do not think their are answers, don’t want to make people upset, or just don’t want to be called a bigot. But there are answers.
Check it out, Jason speaks the truth in a loving way. That is how each of us should handle these issues.
Host: You just told me a story before we went on the air about a young girl, very upset, who wanted advice on how to explain to her parents that she’s pan-sexual. Blew my mind. What’s up with that?
Jason: Yeah…pan-sexual is different from bi-sexual because bisexual implies that there’s only two sexes to choose from whereas pan-sexual is open-minded to the fact that there’s almost an innumerable amount of sexes and genders that one could possibly choose from. And she was really wrestling – ‘How do I tell my parents what I am?” And we sat down for a good hour and really talked through this. Now is this really who you are or are these feelings you experience?
And I explained to her ‘You know, not all attractions are sexual. You know, God intends for you to be attracted to other women.” And her eyes kind of went “Huh? What? That’s not Catholic.” Ofcourse it is, because God made all things good. That friend of yours, that female friend, isn’t she intelligent, witty, and smart, and beautiful? Doesn’t that just draw you to her? “Oh yes! It does” [she responded].
And I explained to her, I had a guy in one of my bible studies who was about 80 years old. I was very attracted to him. Not in a romantic way, but his holiness, his personality, his gravitas, who he was as a man really drew me to that. But when we live in a culture that hyper-sexualizes our potato chips and our Doritos, it wants to hyper-sexualize our attractions too, and thus hyper-sexualizing our identity. Meaning if you feel that attraction, that is who you are. And if that’s who you are, well, then you should experiment with that because otherwise your identity is being stuffed down.
So you experiment with it, you try something with another girl, and then bonding ensues physically, and that further reinforces this false notion that this is who you are. And so we talked through this, and after an hour she realized “Wait a minute, I’m not pan-sexual. I just appreciate other people’s personalities more than I’m interested in simply looks. That makes alot more sense.”
She was so much more at peace. So I think it’s so important that we tell these kids today that not every attraction is sexual, and our identity is never defined by our sexual attraction.
For the full episode, click here.
Jason Evert has spoken to more than one million people about the virtue of chastity. He is a best-selling author of more than ten books, including “Theology of the Body for Teens,” and “How to Find Your Soulmate without Losing Your Soul.” Jason earned a master’s degree in theology, as well as undergraduate degrees in counseling and theology from Franciscan University of Steubenville. He is a frequent guest on radio programs and his television appearances include Fox News, the BBC, MSNBC, and EWTN. Jason and his wife Crystalina live in Denver with their children. For more information, go to www.jasonevert.com and www.chastity.com